Helping Kids Cope With Exam Pressure

Have exams coming up? Sometimes the pressure you feel can help keep you focused, other times it can cause stress.When your child faces exams, often scheduled close together, they are under incredible pressure. They’ll need your understanding and support. Obviously, everybody gets tensed and nervous just by listening to the word ‘exam’!!!

Dealing with exam stress is not that difficult. Right preparation for the exams is the first step, being confident and positive about the outcome is another most important factor. Many children face exam stress because of the pressure/ fear of performance and of the results.

This often results from lack of self-confidence or over expectations and pressure to excel in the exams. Parents can help their children by being supportive during preparations and their exams.Exam stress can start when you feel that you can’t cope with revision, or feel pressure from your school or family. You might worry you are going to fail, but we have got advice and tips on coping.
It can seems scary to talk about stress or anxiety. You might feel like nobody else is feeling this way. But bottling up stress and trying to deal up with your own can often make the stress worse. So it can really help to talk.When we feel anxious, we often give ourselves negative messages like: ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I’m useless’ and ‘I’m going to fail’.

It can be difficult but try to replace these with positive thoughts such as: ‘this is just anxiety, it can’t harm me’ and, ‘relax, concentrate – it’s going to be okay’.

Picturing how you’d like things to go can help you feel more positive. Try to imagine yourself turning up to an exam feeling confident and relaxed. You turn over your paper, write down what you do know and come away knowing you tried your best on the day.
It can sometimes feel like your whole future depends on what grades you get. There can be a lot of pressure on young people to do well in exams which can cause a lot of stress and anxiety.
You might have been predicted certain grades or put into a higher set, and feel if you don’t get the grade you’ll let your teachers or parents down.Remember, exams are important – but they’re not the only way to a successful future. Lots of people achieve success in life without doing well in school exams.


  • As a parent, pay special attention towards your child and encourage him/her to overcome their worries and gain confidence to go through their exams successfully by interacting with them freely.
  • Do not show over-attention and keep over-expectations. Always be affectionate, supportive, and proactive for their study.
  • Take time, spend it with your child, and reassure them that you are always with him/her to support and encourage.
  • Concentrate on the nutrition, provide with lots of fruits and vegetables and low fat, low-sugar, and low-caffeine foods that increase memory power and encourage your child to follow an exercise routine to be more systematic.
  • Also, ensure that your child is sleeping well for about 6-8 hours. This helps in increasing the thinking and concentration power of your child.
  • Remind your child that nervousness is a common phenomenon for every student. Explain to the child that nervousness can make him/her lose confidence and the key is to set these nerves to the best use.
  • Never set rules for studying; allow your child to go with his/her schedule while studying. Instead, assist your child in drawing up a regular study time schedule.
  • Do not add stress and pressure, be a good listener and listen to them, give support and stay away from criticism.
  • After completing an exam day, discuss about the paper and encourage your child to move ahead. Encourage your child to concentrate on the next test rather thinking on the finished exam that no one can change.
  • Do not compare your children with any other children. Provide positive strokes to your child to compare their performance with themselves.
  • Lastly, having done all or some of the above acknowledges, appreciate your efforts and value yourself for being a proactive and sensitive parent.



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